Saturday, September 13, 2008

Why Does Mr. Wrong Always Find Us?

"Yo Ma", "A Girl", "Mmm girl, you look good", "Sister", and "Sexy Chocolate" are all ways not to get a female's attention. Furthermore, shouting any of those phrases from half way across the street is completely disrespectful and out of line. The worst part about ignorant cat calling is that it comes from guys I have no desire to talk to. It's always the sorriest looking brothers that want to approach me and then they get mad when I don't respond. They always say, "Oh, I thought you were a sister", "You can't speak", or "What' wrong with you?"

What's wrong with me? I'll tell you what's wrong with me. I am tired of being publicly disrespected by males that won't even let me walk to the grocery store without hearing some type of foolishness come out their mouths. I absolutely hate the feeling I get when I walk past a group of guys that think it's flattering to comment on any part of my body. And what bothers me the most, is the fact that the strong, intellectual, powerful brothers do not approach me, but the Flavor Flav type looking dudes on the corner have no problem speaking their minds.

Here's a tip to all males: walk up to a woman you find attractive and say, "Hello, my name is (insert name here), and ask her an open ended question like "How is your day going?" or "How are you?" And if you're feeling brave enough, try telling her she's beautiful or that she has a nice smile. A respectful complement goes a long way.


Beautylicious said...

I have heard some of the most crudest and ickiest comments said towards me or when I walk by a man because of my curvaceous body, lol no seriously Portia great point. It doesn't matter where you live, theres always going to be some ignorant fool that feels the need to say the first thing that goes across his small one track mind. Its refreshing when a MAN comes correct and intellectual. Even when the good ones do come correct you can't even take it too seriously because of the hot mess that we have gotten accustomed to.

Fade to Black said...

I comepletely agree, P. This weekend in Philly men would literally stop the flow of traffic to yell something ignorant and disrespectful, thinking it's a complement or a way to get your attention. But, can you blame them? Too often I have seen females respond to the foolishness you just spoke on. We as women have to let men know what we will and won't take. As long as we allow them and continue to respond to their "complements" they will not stop. I've just stopped responding to men who say anything. Call me crazy, but i would rather ignore them than waste my breath explaining to them how whack they really are.

Anonymous said...

I don't care what ya'll say, Im distracted by the flava flave pic on this column...ya'll know even if he approached ya'll with an open ended question ya'll be like "no, no speak english"

Beautylicious said...